The Meaning Behind Marriage.

April 23, 2011 at 5:50 pm (Thoughts)
Tags: advice, bride, love, marriage, wedding

I was at a wedding shower earlier today and we were required to write out a piece of advice for the couple.  This got me thinking about my marriage and what I have learned through the past year and a half.  I feel like we have learned a lot about each other and ourselves- but I also know that there is still much to be learned!  LOL!

 One thing I learned right away- is that your husband cannot read your mind!  I know I sound crazy for thinking that would be true.  But, this is what would go through my head, “I am mad, he can, tell and he should know that it was because he made that little comment about me giving him too many veggies for dinner!”  Guess what- he had no idea!  COMMUNICATION and HONESTY are key to any relationship, but especially your marriage.

Another thing that ties in with this is; boys and girls are different!  I know, I know, this sounds so obvious, how could I mess this up?  But let me explain.

When I was going through all of the change that comes with getting married (last name, location, job, room mates, schedule… you get the picture.)  I handled it much differently than Kyle did.  He was laid back, chilling, almost like nothing happened.  But I felt like it rocked my world and I was wrestling with many emotions.  That is just it; I am a woman and I handle life’s situations differently that Kyle, a man, does.  I have to be okay with that.  And when we process through the same things differently we have to communicate honestly about how we are feeling.  Otherwise there can be unnecessary discord going on.  Which only strains a relationship.  So remember that we HANDLE THINGS DIFFERENTLY.  And there is nothing wrong with that!

Lastly, if I had one more thing to share it would be: GOD NEEDS TO BE YOUR GREATEST LOVE!

Now, this one sounds like  it should be a given too, but there is a reason I put it here.  See, God has designed marriage to be a commitment- life long- no going back!  He also compares us, as believers, to being the bride of Christ.  That means our relationship with Christ and our heavenly Father should never be compromised- it is a life long commitment!  God’s love for us is greater than we will ever even understand here on earth.  We can’t just bail out as soon as things get hard or we think we have “fallen out of love.”  Love is a choice.  We have to be willing to fight and work for that love to grow stronger each day.  God gave us His one and only Son, so that we may experience a life with Him.  I don’t know about you, but I am willing to fight to keep God the first and greatest love of my life.